The "It" ideal.

I'm sure everyone's noticed that some people seem to be better accepted than others. Everyone knows that one friend that seems to be liked by everyone, the social butterfly that everyone loves to talk to. Often this person isn't even particularly attractive, funny, or any other attribute that could explain why people seem to flock to be around them. What they have I can simply only refer to as "It."

What is "It?" The unexplainable reason for that social butterfly that is loved by everyone. They don't even have to be a nice person, such as that one cocky guy in highschool that treated all the girls like crap, but they flock to him anyway. This person's attitude says they couldn't give a fuck if we like them or not. This could be why everyone seems to like them. They crave acceptance from someone more socially adept than themselves, and will continue to follow this person whether they receive it or not.

The possessors of "It", may not even be aware. They're just happy people with large social circles, possibly not even realizing how loved they are. They may not even be aware that so many people flock to them and strain so hard for their approval.. They just simply have many friends. There's something seductive about them, and not necessarily even sexually. They (whether purposely or not) draw you in with the things they say. They're interesting, and at the same time make you feel like they care about and are interested in you and what you have to say. This can often be bad for the person befriending the possessor; as many people will become clingy/needy toward the possessor when they stop getting the attention they crave.

The unaware possessors are my favorite kind. They're just nice people, and they love to be social and treat their friends well. The more aware possessors often seem to be more choosy over who's social affections they return, and they are often quick to cut ties with someone because they know they've got many more options in friendship. Some people call this being confidant and socially adjusted.. I call it something more.

Many people are confidant and socially adjusted. But they don't seem to have that attitude that possessors of "It" seem to have. This is not necessarily even a bad attitude, just a multitude of confidence that will win them friends and lovers for many, many years.